Dear Love Coach:

Hey Kelvin, thank you for all your social media posts, they really help me get much needed clarity on my relationships. However, I will like to ask a question about something that has been a problem. I was wondering what is your take on a guy who prefers to keep you at arms length?

For example, we go to the same church but never actually go together. He also goes to lunch with his friends every Sunday without inviting me to go too. I really like this guy, but this is something that I feel is a problem. Can you share your thoughts on the situation?

Sincerely,
Trish

Greetings Trish:

Thanks for reaching out and for the compliment on my work. I always enjoy hearing that I am helping others navigate through their relationships!

Now to your question.

Dating, passion, desire, and the chase is still the same as it has always been. If a man desires you, he is going to come after you unless… There is a barrier in his way. 

Sometimes single church guys have a lot of options. They may not pursue one woman openly for fear of being called a hoe. So he just keeps all the women at arms length. A guy like this brings a woman in when he is ready to make a commitment. This way he doesn’t look bad. He might find you attractive, but he is not ready to make you his woman, at least not yet.

KTJ

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Kelvin Troy Johnson, The Love Coach of Atlanta

Meet Kelvin Troy Johnson, a man who wears many hats. According to his Facebook page, Mr. Johnson is a motivator, personal development coach, radio talk show host and above all, The Love Coach of Atlanta. For years Mr. Johnson has been putting his degree in Psychology from Norfolk State University to use by providing advice to people who are looking for love.